Saturday night we had "The Talk" with Lexi. It went really well. I was so nervous and stressed- but she was ready and wasn't bothered by anything we talked about. I forget sometimes how mature she is- as we would talk and explain things she asked questions and we could tell she was processing it fine- I was worried we would over load her with info.
We got to the part of the the egg and sperm meeting and making a baby, we talked to her a little about that. She thought it was kind of weird to know she had a uterus already- she thought only mom's had that when they are pregnant. Darrell asked her if she knew how the sperm and egg got together and she said no. He asked her if she wanted to know. Her response cracked me up! She said, "If it's gross I don't want to know yet!" We told her she could ask us when she is ready, and she was fine with that. She has heard of sex and we just told her that's when the egg and sperm meet- we didn't go into details- cause to a 9 year old that is gross!!
I would recommend the books by Brad Wilcox, Where Do Babies Come From, and Growing Up. They don't just talk about sex, they explain things with the gospel teachings- why we were made the way we were. We didn't use the Growing up book- I know it was too much info for Lexi, but it's great for kids who are a little older.
The Santa talk is not going to happen, I think it will be easier on the kids if they find out on their own instead of them being told while they still believe. Thanks so much for all the comments- it really helped Darrell and I both through the discussion. I am so glad I had Darrell there- Lexi knows now she can talk to both of us and she doesn't have to be embarrassed. There was one point where I almost started freaking out though. Lexi and Ashlee have known where the baby comes out for a while, but I have only used the proper term once- I hate proper terms- they sound so weird coming out of kids mouths. When Lexi read the "V" word I made a face to Darrell and he had to make a face at me to remind me to stay calm.
Whewww! I'm glad it's over, and so glad it went so smoothly!!
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Way to go! I'm glad you made it through that. Sounds like you did great! Now you have the ground work laid for future conversations. Way to go Darrell! Glad he was there, it's important for girls to be able to talk to their dads.
Congrats on surviving! I hope years from now our talks go as well as that! Thanks for giving an update!
Hooray for you! Glad you all survived and that Lexi took it all so well. It's always a relief to get it over with, and it's a little easier the next time around. :)
Great job jumping that hurdle. Just know that's the first of many to come and it will be much easier next time.
It is so sad that kids need to have THE TALK so early these days. They are all growing up way too fast! She's lucky to have such great parents.
BTW...I was so happy to read your comment about the broken mirror. Steve actually did that to our van a few years ago. Because he did it, it was fixed within a couple of days. Because I did this one, he is waiting and having too much fun teasing me about it.
OK. I've been out of touch a bit on the blogging. I have missed all of this. I too used the "where do babies come from book" when I had the talk with my kids. I didn't have a formal setting though. I used time in the car as we were driving if I had one of them alone of course. I loved that book. We would talk a bit and I would give them the book to go through on their own and then we would go through questions later. That way they didn't have to process everything at once. Although I think you were pretty brave to tackle it so early. I did my talks in 5th grade before the maturation class. We also would include the whole homosexual/bisexual issue in their and explain that sex was meant to be between a man and a woman. I can't belive how many people commented that they had the talk in 3rd grade. It just goes to show you have to know your kids and know when they are ready. my kids definatley would not have been ready at that age. We answered questions here and there prior to the talk, but nothing major. I'm glad it went well for you. FYI--The second go round is a little easier:)
Sounds like it went pretty smooth! You're alot braver than I am!
Yay for good outcomes! BTW- I hate the V word too.
Now I have questions for you!! ;o)
Glad it all went well. We haven't had that talk with Bug yet and she is almost 9 1/2. You are braver than I am .:-)
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