There have been many times I have awarded myself a "bad mom" award. I'm sure you have had those moments too, if not then just humor me k?! Today I definitely get the "bad mom" award.
Lexi was born with a mole on her right side that was pretty big. I was told she needed it removed before she went through puberty because the hormone change can cause cancer cells to grow, or something along those lines. (It was a long time ago, I can't remember the correct terms) She has been going to the dermatologist once a year since then to make sure it looked ok. I was told it didn't need to be removed, they used to think it would, but have found out as long as the mole looks good- it's fine. I knew one day Lexi would want it off, it's big and dark brown- something most girls freak out about. The past two years she has wanted it off, but then got too nervous and we canceled the appointment. We decided to do it this year, and today was the day. I promised her it wouldn't hurt, they gave us a special cream to numb the area so she wouldn't feel any shots. (lie #1) She is a tough and brave kid- it takes a lot to make her cry, but she was in tears when we got to the office. I said a little prayer with her and we headed in. As we were sitting and the nurse was prepping everything she pulled out a handful of needles- I am NOT exaggerating either. Lexi's eyes got big and I told her she would only need one, maybe two. (lie #2) The nurse gave me a funny look, but kept going. The doctor came in- such a sweet lady- love her! She chatted with Lexi for a minute and promised her she wouldn't feel anything. (lie #3) She started giving her the numbing shots and Lexi tensed and started crying. I asked her if it hurt or if she was just scared- it hurt! I felt so bad!! I didn't know it would hurt her, and I didn't know they were going to use ALL the needles- at least 9 (I stopped counting after that), to numb her!
No more details- but it was bad. 20 minutes of numbing and she could feel 15 minutes of it. I was almost crying with her by that point. The doctor was very surprised she could feel it as well, she kept trying to comfort her as much as possible too. They removed the mole and surrounding area's, a little larger then a silver dollar, and a half inch deep. Then I heard staples. I thought I had Lexi all prepared, but I was not ready for staples. She survived and now three stitches and EIGHT staples later she is recovering.
I had promised her no pain- and it was a very painful process for her. I had told her the pain wasn't going to be bad on the recovery- it will be the itching that makes her crazy. I was wrong again! She is in a lot of pain tonight, lot's of yucky bloody gauze's- and I can't do anything to help her except give her Motrin and Tylenol. Therefore- I get the biggest "BAD MOM" award EVER!!
**I wasn't purposely trying to lie to her, I didn't know- should have asked a few more questions I guess!
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2 months ago

17 comments:
oh, so sorry for Lexi! and you for having to watch her go through it. That's the hardest part of the mom job... watching our kids in pain and not being able to help. You sure have had your share of that lately. You deserve a break, not a bad mom award. Hope Lexi is feeling better.
Poor Lexi! That is awful. Poor thing. She is such a trooper though and you are too! It is over with and she wont be needing to do that again, so that is good. Give her hugs.
I don't think that makes you a bad mom at all. I think it's great that you encouraged her to go through with it and was there to support her. There was no way you could have known all the details. It sounds like even the doctor was surprised by a few of them. Hug her extra tight and let her know how much you love her. Ultimately that's what she'll remember.
I had a mole removed a few months ago and the shot that numbs the area hurts like a wah wah. (I don't know what a wah wah is, but I can't think of anything else.) It burns and stings, and makes you crazy for a few seconds, and I have a really high pain tolerance. Lexi is AWESOME! I would have babied out if I had to have more than one shot. I hope the pain eases up soon.
I hope she is feeling better today! They need to come up with a better way of removing moles.
I'm sorry Alissa. I know you truly hurt with your kids. You are a good mom. As I was reading it I kept waiting for the "bad mom" to come out. Heck, you gotta do more than that to take my crown from me. (I've moved on. I started with an award, but now I wear a crown.)
Oh that sounds horrible! I am so sorry! I know there have been times that I have taken my kids to the doctor and they have asked if they are going to get a shot and I tell them of course not because i really don't think they are going too. And then they end up having to get one and then I feel REALLY bad like I lied too but it's not on purpose! I seriously now say stuff like probably not because I know it makes you feel bad when you feel like you lied to them! Even on accident!
She will be glad that she got it removed though!
I feel for her and you, I had one removed when I was about Lexis age and I remember it hurt like heck, but I am glad it is not there. You are definitely not a bad mom, I have the award to prove it. I hope the pain goes a way quickly.
Carson has been asking to have her beauty mark removed on her check. I have put her off for years. That has me thinking??? HMMM, maybe plastic surgeon instead of dermatologist. She is a whimp when it comes to pain. Your poor baby girl. Poor mom too! I have been there in the ER with my little ones. You feel so helpless.
Sounds to me like it's the Dr. that should get the award! They should give you all the facts. It shouldn't be up to us moms to know what questions to ask. I get the bad mom award for far worse things :)
We've all been there! I hope she is feeling better today.
That doesn't deserve a "bad mom award." You didn't know all that they would do & what she would go through. But you were there to comfort her & she'll be glad once she's feeling better. If she didn't get it removed, it sounds like she would want it removed eventually, so better now than later. Just give her lots of extra hugs and hopefully she feels better soon! :)
You are not a bad mom at all-sometimes we just have to go through life's pain-and you were a GREAT mom to be there at her side! Hope Lex is doing better-no fun! WE love you Lexi!
You are so not a bad mom! Hopefully she is doing better now and she will remember you being there to support her, not the other things! :)
It's okay Alyssa!!! I know we want to shield our children from pain, but this was good for Lexi because it is making her tougher and stronger. She was SO BRAVE and I think you should get a "supportive mom" award!
Oh owie!! I hope it heals up quickly!!! Poor mama and poor Lexi!!
HUGZ!!!
I hope Lexi is feeling better. There really is no good way to prepare them. I always just tell them it will feel like someone is pinching you. It seems to give them something they can understand.
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