Today Lexi came home from school and had a NASTY melt down! I hate days like this! She is really a mellow kid who acts like a 40 year old stuck in an 8 year old body- but some days she has to remind me she is only 8! She needed to do her homework, practice piano, and get ready for tumbling. Yes, I realize that is a lot to fit in one night- but it was the last night of tumbling. From 4:00- 6:00 it was weeping, wailing, and gnashing of teeth in the Wiser house. Seriously if anyone was walking near our house probably heard her! I don't have a lot of patience when my kids get like this- so upset you can not reason or even talk to them. I sent her to her room, and it did not help. Of course this has to happen on a night Darrell won't be home until late! She finally let me help her with her assignment- which took a whole 5 minutes when she actually did it! She started calming down when she started playing the piano. She asked me how I learned how to calm down when I was feeling so upset. I had to kind of laugh- I told her I'm still working on it. It just shocks me every once in a while how hard it is to be a mom. On the way to tumbling she finally would really talk to me openly. She told me she realizes now she needs to get back in the habit of doing her homework and piano practice first, then she won't get so overwhelmed. Um those were her exact words- like I said 40 year old trapped in an 8 year old body!
I am so thankful we don't have these kind of melt downs very often, just enough to remind me to be thankful for how good they are normally! How do you guys teach your kids to talk about how they feel. Once I can get the kids to say what's bugging them- they relax so much. I told Lexi a few ideas, walk away, play the piano, write down why she's upset since it's easier to write then say sometimes. Any other idea's?!
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There are some advantages to having lots of boys. Not so much drama, but we still have issues with homework. I've decided homework is punishment for adults. Logan's teacher piled it on last year. I'm hoping middle school will be better.
I dont have kids and i wont for a long time, but i know that meltdowns are no fun. I dont have total meltdowns anymore, but i sometimes have a half-meltdown. Most kids dont want to talk to there parents they'd rather talk to a friend. If she melts down like that again ask if she wants to call a friend or me. Because I will always be here to talk to.
First, I love the new look. Much easier to read and the colors are great!
Second, Lexi is such a sweet girl. One of the things I love to do when mine are in moods like that is just pull them into my lap and hold them -- until they are ready to get down. It's really very calming for both of us! =)
Bubble Bath Anyone!? I hate those days. I don't handle them well at all. No patience in that area...which is too bad. I am completely impressed with her outlook. She is totally 40...Kenna is kinda like that too. So sad they get so old so fast.
Oh, that sounds so familiar! We have to fit in 2 kids practicing piano in the morning, before school, so they have time after school for homework, scouts, activity days, Tessa's riding lessons, and PJ & Jonah will be starting soccer soon. I'm still not sure how that's going to work out. Anyway, Tessa has her major melt downs too--usually when she is very tired and stressed out, and new situations stress her out. We also had a melt down this morning, because she couldn't fix her hair just right. AARRGGHH!! But, after I helped her (for the 3rd time) and asked her if something else was wrong (she was stressed about school), and gave her a big hug and told her she was doing great and it was going to be a fun year and all that, she relaxed and was much happier. I hate sending them to school in a bad mood. Good luck with your girls! Hopefully everyone gets into a routine and relaxes (for all our kids and for us!)
I might know something about girl drama. :-)
A great big hug seems to work the best for all my girls. I give them a few minutes of time alone and then catch up to them with a big hug. We'll sit and snuggle on the couch or on their bed. Within minutes, they are calm and know they are loved.
Good Luck!
I hate those meltdowns! Especially when they are over the smallest things and the kids become totally unreasonable! Porter is the worst - see?? It isn't just girls! Unfortunately, most of the time his meltdowns lead to mine. I love that you told Lexi that you are still working on it as well - so are we! I find that some time alone (for each of us) is enough to calm him down and get him thinking rationally again. I love this post because I know exactly how you feel!!
I love your new look!!
I love the new layout, and colors!!! I'm with you. I have no patience when they get like that, and I know I just add to the frustration rather than helping diffuse theirs, but ugh. With Andrew laughter is the best medicine. Saying something funny, or somehow getting him to laugh will open up the situation to be talked about constructively. :)
When you figure it out, let me know! It seems Taylor's meltdowns are becoming more frequent, but I'm certain most of the time it's a lack of sleep. There have been many times when she is throwing huge fits that I send her to her room to take a nap. She is so much better after that.
I have a lot to look forward to... Bekkah has those meltdowns quite often and she is only 4...
love your new layout. Way Cute!!!
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