I have been feeling a little flutter here and there in my abdomen the last few weeks and have wondered if it could be the baby already. This week it has become more often and a little harder, so I know it's the baby. I have forgotten what this feeling does to me. I LOVE this feeling- I could seriously lay around all day waiting for just one more flutter just to know my baby is ok. It's so reassuring to feel the baby a few times just to know it's alright, since we don't have the fancy tools the doctor's do to hear a heart beat.
I have felt since I found out I was pregnant that this baby was coming to stay with us, but still the fear and worry can over ride the calm peaceful feeling. I keep praying that everything continues to go well- it's amazing to me how lucky we all are to have such healthy kids. If you really think about all that has to happen for this little person to form in you, then after they are born how their body continues to grow and can then have babies also. Well, I don't really like to think of my kids having babies- but it still is amazing!
So many people make the comment to me that I NEED a boy- it kind of bothers me sometimes. Not when it's said in a nice or funny way, but when it's said in a hurtful way- like I don't know much about parenting until I have a boy. It hasn't happened often, but when it does it's a really frustrating feeling. If I really needed a boy- then I know I would already have one since the Lord really knows what I need. I feel like Carly is quite a handful- more then a handful sometimes- doesn't that count?! I love my girls, and yes, they are calmer then boys, but the drama that comes with girls is no easy thing either. I will admit, I did say quite often that I do not want a boy- I am worried I wouldn't know what to do with a boy, I would make him gay since all I know about is girlie things! But I know if this baby is a boy then I'll be ok- he hopefully won't be too femmie- because after all he would be the baby and following three girls, chances are he will be quite pampered! But I really don't care either way what the baby is- if it's a boy- great! We have lot's of repainting to do, and a whole lot of shopping to do. If it's another girl- great! We don't have to repaint, don't have to by new bedding, and still have a lot of shopping to do. It would be more convenient for a girl- but change is fun and good. Darrell would also prefer a girl- it's just easier, and we love our crazy girls! But for the reason that we both want a girl, he swears it's going to be a boy because that's just how our luck is!:) So any of you who have told me I need a boy, don't start thinking you have offended me- the few people who have said it in a rude way don't read my blog- though I wish they did just for this post! I know those who have said it mean it in a nice way, and just want me to see that I don't need to be so scared of little boys. One day maybe I'll believe you all that taking care of a baby boy after he has been circumcised isn't so scary- but right now the thought terrifies me!!
I really wondered if we would be blessed with another baby, and am so thankful to have this little baby!! I love this flutter feeling- even at the end of the pregnancy and it's not a flutter anymore, it's almost painful for the baby to kick and move- it's a great feeling to me! I am just so thankful!
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I think you did a terrific job taking care of Danielle's boys, and you are a wonderful mom. My neighbor had two little girls and when they were expecting their third, she said she was scared to have a boy because she used to babysit these two little boys who were developmentally delayed and had behavior problems. I said, "Once this boy is born, you will love him so much that you won't be scared anymore." She had the baby in December and I saw her at the ward Christmas party. I asked her about it and she said the fear was totally gone and that she loved him sooo much.
Alissa, I am so excited for you, boy or girl :)
Be afraid, be very afraid! jk
Everyone says boys are easier. I have yet to see that. My boys are just as moody as Kylea. At least with Kylea we get a little calmness here and there. My boys are of course all boy. We (Kylea and I) were really hoping this last one would be a girl, but we can't imagine life without Max now that he is here. No matter what you get boy or girl, you will love that little one and know that they were meant to be a part of your family. I don't think you have to have both a boy and a girl to fully experience every role of parenthood. Wesley although he is a boy is definately the most emotional. Kylea although she is a girl can deffinately hold her own in this house of boys.
Good Luck!!!
PS. I still have all my boy stuff should you happen to need it.
That is so exciting! I always loved feeling the baby moving and kicking inside of me. It makes it that much more real. I will miss all of that! And I agree with the other comments--that it depends more on personality than whether it's a boy or girl. We have a boy that can be very emotional and our boys are still very cuddly and sweet, but can be very rambuncious and crazy--but so can our girl. She can be sweet and calm or emotional with girl drama, or wild and crazy. You guys are wonderful parents and will do great with another girl, or a boy! And about the circumcision...we were scared when we brought PJ home from the hospital and he had just barely been circumcised. I didn't know what it would look like (we weren't in the room when they did it--but I did go in when Jonah & Clay were circumcized and it wasn't that bad). So when we got home, I asked Neil to help me change PJ's diaper (we didn't really have a clue what we were doing with our first!) So, we laid him down on the floor, and took off his diaper, and he immediately peed all over us! We had to laugh! I learned to keep the diaper close at hand to cover up the fountain if it starts--which it always does as soon as you take off the diaper! But the circumcision healed quickly and it wasn't a big deal at all. Anyway, you'll have to tell us all when you find out, if this little person is a girl or boy...and what name you decide on! We are so happy for you!! :)
I LOVE feeling those little flutters. That's what I always miss about being pregnant. I doubt that you would turn your boy gay...If anything, He would know just how to treat the girls...It will be fun to find out what you are having...
I'm just now feeling the flutters too. It is sooo surreal and cool to feel - especially since this is our first. I see why you like them so much. I do LOVE the fact it reminds you that the little one is still doing ok too. Congrats on the exciting life changes! Whether it's a boy or a girl it's definitely meant to be!! :D
Without a doubt, that is the BEST, most rewarding part of pregnancy. Enjoy! :-)
I love and miss those flutters! That is awesome! I am way excited for you! Boy or Girl, its meant to be! Just enjoy!!
Yea I am so excited for you. So are you guys going to find out? Or is it past that time?
I hear you on the Boy thing, I keep getting told the same thing, that we "need a boy" Or my girls get asked "wheres your brother?" Kinda annoying, I just blow it off. What ever you have will be a great blessing to your wonderfull family.
I get SO annoyed about the "needing a boy" comment ALL THE TIME! I don't understand why people feel the need to say that? Do they not understand that I am COMPLETELY AWARE that I have only girls? I know some people say it humorously but I have to admit it still kinda hurts my feelings a little bit. The best one though is when person after person makes the comment " oh your poor husband" when they see my three girls. ARE YOU KIDDING?! We have three beautiful healthy children! What is there for my husband to be so pittied about?
Sorry this is a sore subject with me! BUT I am so excited for you! And I know what you are saying about the toss up between having a boy or a girl. I think the same pros and cons as well. I am excited to finf out what you are having and what you decide to name her/him.
what a wonderful feeling! a boy would be so fun for you gals!
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